So, I tried really hard to get cleaning done, but it did not happen. Sooo, my mom has agreed to watch the children so that I can drive back up to my house in Lancaster and clean uninterrupted for several hours. My goal is to get all the laundry done, finish sorting my daughter's clothes according to size, clean the carpet in the living room, mop the bathrooms and kitchen, and run around like a maniac for a few hours with the knowledge that my mom's help comes to an end on Monday. I think that if I can get laundry done and the bathrooms cleaned, I will feel like I have just won the lottery!
As per directed by my mother (who is watching me type) I am supposed to tell everyone that my parents came up from Florida three weeks earlier than they normally do because of my pregnancy and then stayed three weeks later to help. As I said, I appreciate all their help and know that I am lucky to have help at all when so many others do not have any help.
My sisters, who had children in their twenties, think that I am spoiled for all the help. I personally think they are a little jealous that I got some help. Well, duh! you say. The trade off is that I am older, pregnancy is harder (and higher risk) and recovery takes longer, but my parents are now retired and can provide more help than when they had a full time job. At least two sisters do not understand this. One sister has health issues that prevented pregnancy and the other had her children before age 27 and is a stay at home mom. Balancing a career and children has its own issues. Supermom I am not. Better than my sisters, I am not. Different than my sisters, oh yes.
I'm probably more sore with you because, it seems to me, that you ignore the fact that I am a mother of 3 children with a lot of experience. DH was working insane shifts while the kids were toddlers, at times, that meant I was their sole caregiver. I had to insist that he get up with the oldest, when he started school, otherwise he would have only seen him on the wknds! You may have been older with your pregnancies and high-risk but with my own health problems I feel into the high-risk catagory as well, does gestastional diabetes or preeclampsia ring a bell? There's a lot that you don't know about me, try asking.
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